Should the father of a 13 years old boy should be blamed for the actions of his son?

Abdul Qodir Jaelani, or also known as (Dul) was involved in a case of 13 years old boy who killed seven people in a car crash. It was a car accident that happened on 01.00 AM in the morning. There are different people think that Dul should have been blamed for his irresponsible actions. I disagree that Dul should be blamed on this action. I agree that Ahmad Dhani, Dul’s father should be responsible for his son’s irresponsible actions.

                The chronology of this incident is Dul was driving his girlfriend home at Bogor. It was early at dawn. It was 01.00 AM. Dul asked his driver to go home because Dul wanted to drive the car himself. After taking his girlfriend home, He went from Bogor to Jakarta. When Dul was on the way going home from Bogor to Jakarta, the tragedy happened. He lost control and crashed into a highway divider at a toll road and crashed two cars in his way. This tragedy killed 6 people at that moment and injured one people who later died at the hospital.  Dul’s car was in a bad condition after the tragedy happened.

                Firstly, Ahmad Dhani (Dul’s Father) should be responsible of his son’s irresponsible action. Ahmad Dhani claimed that he didn’t know that his son could drive the car, He should’ve contact Dul’s driver to check his son’s daily activities. Ahmad Dhani had little chance to know that Dul had gone off by himself. As a general rule, parents should be taking the consequences and responsibility of their children and parents should supervise and monitor their children’s activity. It’s Parents responsibility to monitor their son’s activities and pays attention to their son especially if their son is not mature yet.  

                Second, Ahmad Dhani let his son to hang out with his girlfriend until it’s midnight. It is very exceptional for parents to have their children going out at midnight with his girlfriend without acknowledgement. As a general rule, Parents has the authority to not allow his son to go out at midnight without companion. Parents have the authority to decline his son’s appetency to go out at midnight without supervisor.

                Third, Abdul Qadir Jaelani is still 13 years old, which means that he’s still underage. When it comes in the age of 13, everything would make them curious and they will start to do some more new things that people can’t imagine. And because he does not have any experiences, the father should’ve told him what the best thing to do is. During puberty the human minds’ ability to make rational decisions slightly lags behind development. In this case, Dul’s brain hasn’t developed well. Generally, underage kids drive using their ego and emotion. As a general rule, Parents are aware of their children’s safety, even though their son is driving, parents should supervise their son to tell which is right and wrong.

                In Indonesia, based on the law, it is illegal that people fewer than 19, shouldn’t be driving cars or motorcycles. Ahmad Dhani should’ve known about this fact that Dul won’t be able to drive without the driving license and he bought his son a car although he’s still underage. It means that the Ahmad Dhani lets his son to do anything with the car, including driving it by the son itself. As a general rule, Parents should know the rules and regulations that children underage shouldn’t be driving cars without a driver or supervision from adults. He should’ve contact Dul’s driver to check his son’s condition.

                Lastly, Ahmad Dhani is the one who would be paying for the vehicle’s damage of the car’s accident and Ahmad Dhani even promised to fund the education of the children of the crash victims involved to repay what his son has caused to the victims because Dul wouldn’t have that much money to repay what did he done on this tragedy.

                In Conclusion, Ahmad Dhani(Dul’s father) should be responsible of his son’s action killing 7 people, because of his misguidance to his own son, Abdul Qodir Jaelani.